Last week, I opened my blog’s email and out of the few emails I got, one in particular caught my eye. The email asked me what my definition of happiness would read. This is one of the hardest questions I have ever been asked, but I thought I would try my best to answer it.
There is no true definition to happiness. It differs depending on the individual. If I were to ask every person I knew to define what happiness, or what “being happy” meant to them, I would probably get a different answer from each person. The dictionary definition of happiness is “the state of being happy”. While this is the most simple and accurate definition of the term, I think everyone has ideas on how they can expand the meaning of “being happy”.
Happiness starts with the people that I share my life with. It is the sight of my dog’s tail wagging after calling his name. It’s the sound of music, especially Sugarland, in the car with my mom and holding her hand as we sing along to those timeless classics. My mom pushes me to believe in myself and I think that is one of the reasons why I started my journey. She always taught me that if people can’t love you for you, then it’s their loss. Having a solid relationship with my mom has helped me get through the bad days/weeks/months and I will be forever grateful for her. Happiness is knowing and appreciating that I have an amazing older sister that I love and look up to. She taught me how to love myself and she inspires me to work hard. My dad and I are very similar. We are very forgetful people, but we always have your best interest at heart. Dad always helps me through everything. He’ll keep me calm before a job interview, listens to all of my problems, and lets me cry into his shoulder after a bad day. My favorite quirk of my dad is that he loves telling jokes, but he can hardly ever keep it together before telling the punchline, so he ends up laughing hysterically before we even know how the joke was supposed to end. My papa can be the same way with his jokes sometimes, and seeing these two laugh the way they do is what shapes my happiness. My grandfather is a huge supporter for my sister and I. Sometimes he’ll call me by my childhood nicknames, and that will always make me smile. Odds are you’ve met my nana, and you already know she’s the sweetest woman you’ve ever met. Her positivity is the constant reminder that no matter what, there will always be a solution to any problem if you just believe you can achieve it. Nights when my friends are all together, just laughing and enjoying the time together is the greatest gift I could ask for. The people I surround myself now had helped me distance myself from very toxic friendships a few years back, and that changed my whole life. My junior year of high school is when I found the friends that cared for one another and always knew how to make the best out of every situation. Happiness is sitting in a room with all of my friends and being able to look around and know that I get to share the best moments with all of these people. The story about my change of friends is something I want to share in its own blog post. Happiness is knowing that I have so many reasons to feel the way that I do.
Happiness is; taking the exit to go to Wakefield and walking into my house after a few months of being at school, driving around my hometown with my best friends blasting music and seeing everyone smile and sing along, going on vacation with my family, smiling at someone and seeing them smile right back, calling to catch up with family or old friends, taking a pan of cinnamon rolls out of the oven, making my Yaya’s old recipe for monkey bread, sitting out in the sun, listening to music, doing something that will make someone else’s day better, finishing exam week, watching old family videos, waking up and making breakfast, celebrating special occasions, are just a few of the many examples of the things that define my happiness.
Take the time to reflect on the things that help you define your happiness. It will make your day so much better when you appreciate all the good in your life.